Seperation Success Stories?

[Trixi]

I don't know if I will be a success story or not. Actually, ultimately, regardless of the outcome, I will be a success story. Either way, this experience has forced me to grow and push some envelopes.

My story is long and convoluted; my H has been wishy washy for quite some time. He moved out in Aug of last year, then he moved back and I rented a house in Jan of this year. In that time frame, he has gone from "we shouldn't see each other" to "we're dating but can see others platonically" to "I don't see us together in the future" to "lets file in January-and how 'bout we do it online. No point in prolonging the inevitable" and now "we're dating exclusively and I'm not looking elsewhere--but take it REALLY slow."

He feels that this time apart has been very good. We are dating and he likes me as his "girlfriend". BUT BUT BUT, he does like being single and being able to do as he pleases when he pleases. So things are not all peaches and cream. He is taking things one day at a time and watching to see how things go.

My H was weird because he would say odd things like "nothing is forever" (meaning divorce) and "even if we got a divorce and saw other people, we might run into each other in two years and get back together." (That was when he was pitching divorce.)
More recently (prior to our trip to Costa Rica) he was dropping hints like that I was "winning him back." Very recently he said that he wasn't going to let me win that easy. *sigh* Lots of history to overcome.

I have no idea how it will turn out; but if he does come back, it will be because he loves me and actually knows I can't be replaced like an old pair of shoes.

Oh, check out minkerman's thread. His wife was moved out and they are back together. SallyM, NikB too.

Use this time to work on yourself. I just went thru a real rough backsliding time frame during the last 4 weeks; but yesterday decided that I am going to see the good parts of living without him-- I don't have to make dinner every night; the house stays as clean as I make it; I can come and go as I please; I can watch what I want on TV; I don't have to deal with a morose person making me feel bad about myself; I decorated my house like *I* wanted; the time we do spend together is undivided attention instead of just occupying the same room. It's not ALL bad.

Keep posting- it's a great place to be. errmmm, not that a person would *want* to be here, but given the circumstances...well, you know what I mean.