That's why you have to disconnet entirely. Aren't you meeting guys? My gosh Olive, when you are in the midst of D you need to start flirting, meeting guys and thinking about who you plan to date once the D is final (even if you are not planning to date). And I'm not talking about lying to make him jealous. I'm talking about wading in the water to see who is there and making some male friends! He needs to KNOW he's losing you. Get some guy to call you at home.... get many guys to call you. All of them "just friends" of course ;\)

But he doesn't need to know that. Your life needs to be a mystery to him. Don't tell him ANYTHING. He still lives with you, make him miserable. I believe he will be horribly jealous in spite of having OW. Have fun with this!!!!!!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.