Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[SueS]

Picked up D4 from school today and she announced that she'd seen OW & OW's D5 again today. I wasn't surprised, but at the same time after the last time was amazed that H took her to see them again. The thought had run quickly through my mind yesterday, as I'd heard on the radio yesterday that the schools where OW lives would be getting out this afternoon. I thought about how today would be OW & H's last chance to do something like this before they make their big move. OW will have her other 3 kids home for the summer now. Not as easy to sneak off and try to snow your D5 that you're just "meeting a friend".

I called H when we got home. I asked him what I did to deserve to once again be blindsided by my own child and find out that she'd been with OW. He was quiet.

Me: It makes me feel like absolute sh*t to find this out....and from my own child.
H: I never intended for it to make you feel that way.
Me: H, can you just once put yourself in my shoes and imagine how it would feel if I did that?
H: I guess I kind of understand.
Me: Then why would you do that to me? Again?
Me: I've told you before and I'll say it again. I get it. I know you're moving on and so am I. But, in a way, it feels like I'm saying to OW....you won, you got my husband....Oh, now here's my child too.
H: That's not at all what it's like.
Me: Well that's how it feels when you just take her without me knowing.
H: Would you rather I call you and tell you that I'm meeting taking D4 to meet her?
Me: NO! I don't want her going at all!!
H: Fine. I won't do it again.
Me: I thought after the last time you wouldn't have done it a second time. Until we're split, I don't want her to see her.
H: Okay.
Me: H, my intention wasn't to call you at work and get into this, but you don't talk to me. I just need you to know how this makes me feel.
H: Okay.
Me: I guess I wish you'd have just one shred of respect for me. But, you've said before that you don't respect me.
H: That's not what I said.
Me: That's exactly what you said. You told me...Sue, I have no respect for you.
H: That's not how it should have come out. What I meant was that I haven't respected you the way I should have all these years.
Me: Well, it just hurts and I needed you to know that.
H: Okay.

We got off the phone after that. Don't know what this will do. In the past, incidents like this have caused H to scramble to be nice to me. He just doesn't get it.

SueS.