Not much new with my situation. I will see my ex tomorrow morning when he drops the baby off. Those are always such weird encounters. I may ask him if he would like to go to my daughter's graduation as a family - to show her our support and love. The worst that could happen is one more rejection.
Wish me luck
I hope I don't chicken out...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting this sounds like a step in the right direction. Try to make every encounter with h comfortable and upbeat. When he arrives, very upbeat "hi h, how are you".
Hope it goes well. Well, you can't die from rejection. We all know that now.
If your h is truly depressed as in he needs professional help he will need all the support he can get and it will be a long slow process.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
You can lead a horse to water Cagz but you can't make them drink........
Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement.
Well ex came over this morning as planned to drop the baby off. I walked out of the garage to meet him and said "Hi, do you have a minute I would like to talk with you about a couple of things". He seemed agitated at first but then warmed up. I first talked about some issues with my son and then got on the topic of my oldest daughter. I suggested we attend my daughter's graduation ceremony as a family and then take her out to dinner to celebrate. He did not hesitate in the slightest bit and said "Yes, sounds like a good idea". (sigh of relief). After that invite by me he kept talking and talking and talking about his job, car, motorcycle, etc........ I ignored any relationship talks and overall it was a positive interaction. Her ceremony is on June 12. I hope that goes well. I wonder if he will tell other woman?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T greta news I like the fact that H didnt hesitate.. the timing may be right for this 180 good luck remember no expectations just a friendly family get together to celebrate tell H you enjoyed his company or conversation peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
GLAD to hear good news from you....friendly -- ahh that is nice. AND no expectations. AH again refreshing. =) happy for you -- and very happy for your daughter... and ow --well she can just wait at home for him to get back. =) tee hee. sorry sorry that wasn't nice now was it.
and yes these horses we had has husbands..truthfully i am thinking they belong in the Donkey catagory! HA HA HA -- oh my oh my!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
