ms ladybug concerned...MR bug wants to move home.

[girlfromipanema]

hey lady.

I'm in Fresno, but girlfromfresno is lame ;-). I sure hope your h never pulls me over. he seems very... intimidating.

First of all, I don't want to sound like I'm bashing you, but you need to figure out a way (I KNOW - it's so hard) to detach so that he can't push those buttons. Let what he says roll off your back. FIGURE OUT A PLAN so he doesn't affect you to the point that you feel compelled to roll your big, beautiful eyes or let out that big, exasperated siiiiiggghhh. If I knew the trick, I'd fill you in. I do feel like I've successfully detached, but it took some time and my h doesn't push my buttons. He doesn't criticize or say hurtful things to me, so I have it much easier.

I still need to re-read your thread, but from what I remember, your h could be pretty hateful and critical. Perhaps in his mind, something has snapped, and he won't be able (or willing) to work on the changes he needs to make until he can believe your changes will actually stick.

It's obvious that he still has feelings for you.