need some insight

[ms ladybug]

I wish I could offer some direction. My therapist told me, "I'm sorry you didn't SEE this in him before you got married."
I said, "no. Really he wasn't like this."
He said again, "I'm sorry you didn't SEE this. But, this is an ingrain characteristic. He can hide it for a awhile, and make intelligent, concious choices to change it for a WHILE. But, it's in his character."
I asked, "how do people change their character?"
He said, "ongoing, intense psychotherapy."

I just don't see that it's coincidental to the job change. But maybe so.