Michelle Weiner-Davis wrote an excellent piece on forgiveness. I'll link to it below, but the key points are:

a) forgiveness is a decision; and,
b) a gift you give yourself

I'm so sorry you were betrayed by your husband, but I'm grateful that he wants to try to make things right. I hope you two kind find your way back to each other.

Forgiveness by Michelle Weiner-Davis


M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence