I can understand the fear of having your struggles tear down the progress you've made with H. They are real struggles whether he understands/empathizes with them or not.
I don't think that you need to just "just put on a happy face", as long as you own that it is your issue to deal with--nothing he says or does can change that. It would be nice if he were more supportive, but reality is that he is not. Do you have any coping strategies for dealing with the anxiety and the added stress of no real support at home?
