NEW DBERS!! dealing with MLC: Some things that help

[Florie]

I have done a lot of these things too. Husband just announced OW and bomb a month ago (there was a mini episode in fall and I think he has been depressed entering MLC for about a year). When I learned about her I was devastated and I started doing a lot of the things suggested in this thread. They work! Just yesterday H admitted that he was very shocked by how well I seemed to be taking all of this and that it actually bothered him a little. Said he thought I would not be handling so well and even though he knew he should be happy I was doing okay it was troubling. I thought that was a good thing! Here is a funny thing I tried that I have a feeling really spun his head around...you'll laugh, but I whistled in the shower loudly when I knew he was in the next room -- cheery/happy songs. No man who just announced an OW expects you to be whistling a happy tune in the shower. Even if he didn't care, I felt like he did and I enjoyed it!