I need to copy this and keep it handy when I get weak. You are right I am giving the OW too much power and I even told him that. He said it was a waste of time, OW does not exist in our lives anymore and will never again. He wants us to focus on us and only our family because that all that matters.
I didn't start giving him heck until I knew that he was committed to our R, because before he was so detached that he didn't care how i felt, so that is why I am here to get advice on how to deal with this without destroying our M, he says that he is so glad that I didn't give up on him, that I fought so hard for us that he knew the coming back was the right thing to do. Now I just have to stop being that person that could drive him away. So thanks again Cat I appreciate that you took the time to respond, these words of wisdom will really help me.
M 45 H 42
D 26 D 18 S 16
Married 19 years Together 24 years ILYBNILWY 1/7/08 OW 10/11/07 ended affair 3/14/08 came home 3/14/08 last contacted ow 3/17/08 4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.
