Guess I fell off the planet for a while.

Let me summarise... OK, I was doing better with dealing with my divorce situation, but work was getting worse. A project I was working on was going seriously wrong and the company providing the support wasn't solving the issues. Management got pissed off with how it was impacting the business...

At that point I had a planned holiday with the boys in the USA, visiting my sister in Union, SC. Just over 3 weeks of peace and quiet(?), much fun had by all despite the hectic days of my nieces dance rehearsals, softball practice and matches with a few birthday parties, school trips etc thrown in for good measure.

I had left handover information with my manager to make sure everything could continue while I was gone. Got back on Sunday May 18th, rested for the day and went to work as usual the next day... To be called while I was on my way there to come to a meeting.

And what a wonderful meeting that was, got to meet my new manager who had been hired while I was on leave, got asked how my holiday was. Then came the letter of suspension, I was being investigated for my performance on the project and in general. Escorted out the building, told not to come to the office, not to contact any of my co-workers, had to hand in my laptop etc.

Two weeks later and I get told the investigation has proved I was responsible for the project's failure, with a list of fabrications and half-truths given as their proof. They gave me the choice of resign or take a much lesser job for much lower pay, not very nice at all.

All through their negotiations they have been aggressive and taking advantage of the fact that I'm still not mentally strong. I've started looking seriously for a new job, told them that I'm willing to resign with a reasonable notice period. I don't have enough fight left in me to deal with both the divorce and this.

Hoping now that my (former) employer accepts my offer and doesn't keep pushing their aggressive agenda. If I had the money I'd spend time fighting against this, the whole thing stinks and they know it. But I don't have the money and I'm mentally worn out again, not the best position to be in while preparing to get divorced and trying to find a new job...

Oh, and W took the time to (finally) tell me that she has been seeing someone else for some time now. Not a big surprise to me, but it still hurts. Also while the kids & I were on holiday W was in a big car accident, car written off but luckily W has only suffered whiplash and no other trauma. Just started her new job and she has had to be off work, made her very upset, even more so when the doctors told her it also involved not being allowed to exercise.

So, project went badly, went on holiday, W had accident while we had a good time in USA in the sunny weather, got suspended, got (pretty much) fired, and yesterday W's loan car got broken into, GPS etc stolen. Yep, its fun times!

Ok, so that was the bad part. Good part? I have a meeting tomorrow with a consulting company, and my CV has gone forward to a different company as well. Hopefully I'll come out of this whole mess with a new, better job, something that doesn't make me dread going to work every day. Also good, my two friends at work have proven to be really good friends. They have kept in contact despite the warnings, visited, helped by keeping me sane and feeding me information on what is happening at work. One has been crusading on my behalf, questioning their lack of proper procedure and rallying support for me, he is also going to look for a new job, says he can't work for a company that would do this to someone.

My posts never seem to be short! Granted this time I had a two month gap to fill in. What else did we do while we were on holiday? We visited Gamestop for their buy 1 get 1 free on used games deal... what a horrific thing to do to my bank balance! Instead of saving me money it just meant I bought twice as many games *8O The kids now have a fairly decent selection of games for the DS Lites, I have a new crimson & black DS as well as a shiny new silver PSP Slim & Lite. Using hindsight I probably shouldn't have spent that money, but the Euro to Dollar exchange just made it worthwhile (it was around 1.5 USD to the Euro, and the same sticker price, so 33% off everything).

Hope I get back to posting here more frequently again, was a great help to me when I was in my dark place before.

Brad


Me: 35
W: 34
S8 & S5
M: 11
IDLY: 08/2007

"Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose" - Janis Joplin, Me and Bobby McGee

"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about dancing in the rain!"