sorry Sara, I had the same thoughts, guilt, what did I do and I'm learning, its not me, I was open to change and willing to do what was needed. We cannot force S to do something they don't want to do.
I don't know if I could have handled S telling me they wanted to work things out and then being put into a position your H put you in
I expect to be heading to D land myself in about a year, I don't suspect W will be able to give up OM or that she will want back into a situation involving 4 kids and all the chaos that goes on with that. I'm not very hopeful.
We are all here for you (((SARA))))
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
