I just filed for D today and wish I had the choice of Legal Sep. because that is really want I want. (not a choice in my state) I do think that all of this is going to snap my H back into reality (or maybe not). I said to him, "this is really happening...." but he still doesn't get it.

You have to look out for yourself. Legal sep is not divorce and I think it might be what you need, but only you can decide for sure.

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08