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[butterflymom]

Then she comes with well I feel you will never be able to fully trust me again. I mean even if I came to you and say ok I want us to work it out, you will feel the need to check up on me. The only thing I said after that is, if you do that will you try and regain my trust/ Of course i got answer.

My H said the exact same thing to me.

I answered him by telling him to let me decide what I can and cannot forgive and that I was pretty certain that we would be able to get past anything if he was willing to try.

I'm pretty sure he just wanted the reassurance that if he tried "us" that I wasn't going to throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble.

Reassure without pressuring. Like Jack said, it's a game. A very high stakes game that we have to learn how to play very quickly if we want things to swing our way.

Good luck at the therapist.

BFM