Is she a simple WAW or MLC??

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Although my W fits the typical WAW syndrome, I am kinda scared that she is MLC (which there is no quick fix for).

Before we separated, she was at the gym and lost a ton of weight. But I could set my watch by her and she always wanted to spend weekends at home with me. In other words, she was home allot. In fact, she originally tried to get me to the gym with her, but my depression got the best of me and I declined.

At one time, she exclaimed that she was looking good and could have any man she wanted. That freaked me out! She has also said that she doesn't know what she wants but "wants to be alone!" and "I just don't want to be married". That was when I used to pressure her. Now she hasn't said these things.

She fits the WAW profile, in that she bottled up stuff and often something was bothering her, she was distant, we hardly had sex. Then she kept saying, "You are so unhappy and nothing I do helps..."

In November, she finally broke down into tears and said, "I have to let you go...I've tried everything..." The shrink told her to let me go and, so after her appointment, that what she came home and told me. Sweeet. Gotta love shrinks!

She is 38 and gorgeous. No SIGN of a EA/PA yet. I have have PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and now take medication for it. So there is a plausible cause of the breakdown. That part is no mystery. I now feel great and am DBing like crazy. Our relationship seems better and the other day, she called me "honey".

Although I know I did not help our marriage (I was negative, insecure, etc.), I still wonder if she is in MLC. She kept saying "we need to get happy". She now has a tan, wears nice dresses, started modeling. She never did that before. It's hard to know if it's MLC or she is just being kind to herself. A few months ago, her shrink suggested she might being having MLC. But it's hard to tell if I was depressed all the time.

Honestly, I would much rather it be my fault. At least I can fix ME. She is very kind to me lately, since I have backed off and stopped talking about the R.

Word has gotten back to me that she might be looking for changes in me, which I am making. Again, since I have STOPPED talking about our R, we seem to be getting along better and laughing more. Again, I feel great and I miss her! I have been adamant and told her that I will be working on myself and that I cannot "move on". She has replied, "I wouldn't want you to."

The other day, she asked me to lunch and later we had a good time. She me laugh and I saw the old, sweet W. We're in the hugging stage, "just friends". Beats being angry. I have seen some positives although she is going forward with the D. Any questions or advise from anyone? Is this MLC?