Wish I could read her mind>>>>

[iamlost]

With the way things were between us, I think I thought the same way a lot of the time....probably the same way she felt, even though it was me that started our "vicious circle".....always thought she didn't really "like me"...didn't pay too much attention to what I said or how I felt.

Isn't it crazy how we get into those vicious circles, feel hurt, hurt back? Isn't that sort of how most of us ended up here on the board in one form or another? The beauty of this whole DB method for me is that one person alone can stop that cycle. And you don't even have to be a saint, which is what I used to think it would take.

You just have to make a choice to do it. To not hurt back. To see the hurt inside your S instead of whatever wall they have up to hide it. To really love without expectation. That's really all you have to do.

I wonder why it seemed so impossible before? Pride? Power struggle? I really don't know.