The point is to avoid starting any R talks, let the WAS do that. Learn to validate and say "Iunderstand why you... or "I can see why that made you feel that way..." yes act "as if"
If a R talk is started by them and it gets uncomfortable then learn to say "right now I prefer not to answer" or "let me get back to you.." don't let them bait you into something you won"t be able to get out of with validating.. it's okay to walk away if it is leading down a cheeseless tunnel...
At least be able to say something that won't be confrontational and that can give you time to think before just reacting.
