Separate or Not Separate?

[Barbara66]

Okay, fellow DBers. I need some voices of experience. My H walked out 7 weeks ago after I discovered an on-line affair that I think has turned physical (he denies) but they did meet and spend a weekend together in a hotel room (1 king bed). We have been communicating in a friendly manner, but he runs hot and cold with me. He still has contact with OOW.

I had to ask him for help with the kids on a future date and he stated he would like to help. When I told him the date, there was silence. He then stated that he could not help because he would not "be around" on that day. I inquired "the whole day, all weekend or what?" and he said "all weekend, and I'm not getting into this with you" I later found out that he is flying out-of-state to visit OOW at her apartment for four days. So if it isn't physical yet, it will be on June 26.

He continues to yo-yo me and I am tired of being hurt over and over. BUT, I still love him and want him to come back to his family. I have had DB coaching sessions and she tells me to not file any paperwork and wait for him to do it. I am afraid that if I wait, I will be at the disadvantage. I am also afraid that if I do file for S that he will look at that as his pass to freedom and he will never look back.

Does anyone out there have any experiences to share or opinions to offer? Thanks