I have been following along just to gain a woman's perspective, but I do have one thought for you. By the way, you can (should) confirm this with your husband. For me, it is the MOST exciting and rewarding if I know my wife is getting pleasure from sex, particularly if she is taking steps to increase HER pleasure. This makes her seem like a sexual creature (highly desirable). Your husband probably feels the same. SO, be released to do things that stimulate only you during your times together. He probably would not only not mind, but would enjoy it as well. It takes very little mechanically for sex to be pretty good for a guy. Most of our satisfaction and ego boost is from having pleasured or been part of pleasuring our partners. I doubt if you husband would be offended if you went solo with him watching. Again, this is kind of individual, but the point is to let you know that you can be very selfish from your point of view, and your husband will most likely not see it that way.
