Sex enough to rekindle marriage after E&P Affair?

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Well here I am yet again it has been awhile since my last post. Today is our 24th anniversary of our 1st date, he hasn't remembered yet. My H and I are trying to make a go of our M, my problem, I can't stop thinking of him being with OW. He says he loves me with all his heart and soul and is so sorry that he did this to me and is putting up with all my mood swings. I told him last night that I don't know if I can ever get past this feeling of insecurity and this all consuming thoughts of him being with her and all their shared secrets. I know this is just crazy, I should just be happy that he is here with me why should I let her take my happiness away from me.

He told me that she does have kids and is divorced, so maybe she is not ever man's fantasy but she was his and that is all that matters. I don't know if I can compete with memories of her.

He told me if he had walked away he knows he would of done anything to get me back once he realized what he had done but I know that it would have taken quite a while because she was doing all she could to make him think that he was not happy with his life with us. He told me she was passively suggesting for him to leave me, you know those tricks these women play to get what they want without sounding like their wife.

So the question is what do I do to get past this, I can't keep letting this get in our way of our happiness but he disrespected me and humiliate me, lied and cheated and we are financially and I am emotionally paying for his fantasy. I know I need to seek out a counselor my friend is one but when I told her about what was happening, she was floored and then not long after that she discovered her husband was going through what was the beginning of the same problem a divorce women with kids too, though he had not been with his fantasy woman yet, but now has since left their house 1 month after my friend had given birth to their third child. Is this some sort of an epidemic? What is going on in this world that men/women seem to be losing all moral judgement or is it really MLC?

Sorry, I know I'm just ranting now but if anyone has any suggestions please advise me, Thank you.