Well, LL told me that our marriage was in a funk and a rut but instead of me doing something about right then...we did nothing...so a couple of weeks later...when it was our 10th anniversary...I made the effort to get sexy and glamourous...to get our marriage out of a funk...

....which did nothing since he had already decided to have an affair...which he started 2 days later as far as I know. Nothing I did was good enough...we were "opposites"...he was an 'optimist' and I was a 'pessimist'. He did not like the way I put on my eyeliner...and I was frumpy.

I have decided to change ME...if he never comes back, well, then he is the one missing out. It won't change the fact that my next companion (if I decide to get one) will get the benefit of all my growth...I know I will be a better person all around


Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller