Thanks for your message. I think it's a good idea for my husband to read SSM and have asked him to do so when I'm done with my copy. I'm currently re-reading it (paying particular attention to certain sections, like those I've underlined) so that I can ensure that I've really absorbed it -- I will focus on the Catch-22 section as you recommended.
I feel like I'm starting to "get it" in a way that I haven't before. In the past, there has been lots of argument back and forth, with me getting defensive when my husband has expressed his anger or hurt. SSM made me understand his point of view in a way that I hadn't considered before, and frankly in a way that I completely sympathize with.
You wrote: "The day that my wife finally "got it," after more than 20 years of marriage, was one of the most important moments in our relationship, and in my mind, absolutely crucial toward getting our relationship back on track."
I was wondering if you could elaborate on this experience for you? (Or as much as you feel comfortable). I am curious what happened -- how did she know that she "got it"? How did she communicate that to you? How were you able to trust that she actually did "get it"? What were your next steps after she "got it"?
