I know what you mean, my first attempt at GAL was being invited to our ex-SIL (her brothers xW) and her husbands for dinner. I told her about it and she got all angry. I didn't even talk about our R with them either.
Since it was her brother's xW she may have felt like the X's were forming an alliance. Unless you and W remained close to your xSIL, then maybe your W felt left out? She probably didn't believe that you wouldn't discuss your R with her. I know my H wouldn't believe it wasn't being discussed.
I have noticed since he started this rollercoaster he is VERY paranoid. Every little thing is only about him. Last night I passed our partially open bedroom door and he accused me of looking in at him thru the crack! You'll be proud that I didn't laugh
I can't imagine being so out of balance and in so much pain that I would try to destroy my whole world. I know that I would try and get some help first.
I feel bad for H, and Thank God that I found this site.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
