in limbo and an emotional mess...

[SueS]

mzul-

Hi there. I'm so glad to see that others came on to visit you as well. Trust me, I've been on this site for a LONG time. I started coming here during my H's first affair back in 2001. Then, as you can see, I re-registered in 2005 during some issues....then, back again in 2007. Anyway, what I wanted to say is that the people that have come to visit you are among some of the most wonderful, supportive people you'll come across. They've all been through it and you can get a lot from them.

Yes, you do need a good night sleep. 30 lbs! That's about where I was the first time around. This time...probably closer to 15 or 20. That's a lot of weight to lose they way you've lost it. The meds can help you with the sleeping too. Not knock you out, but as we said, help you even out. I go back and forth on the counselor. I saw one back in the fall and she really helped. I haven't seen her lately, but I feel like I'm doing okay at this point without her. It's all up to how comfortable you'd feel. I would see the doctor though. My doctor was very, very understanding of my situation. I'd like you to see one just for your overall health.

Sounds like your H is trying. I'll be looking to see if he shows up tonight. I am proud of you for telling him that he can't keep playing these games with you. Me, I didn't have enough strength to do that. I'm so much stronger now though and I do shoot my "truth darts" when I can. I had a fear of losing him that paralyzed me so much that I didn't say much at all. I confronted him, but didn't set boundaries or push it too much.

This OW.... I just don't know what to say about her. She has so much gall, so much nerve. She's amazingly bold. For her to be angry that YOUR husband is going to be having dinner with HIS family. She's got some issues. You are SO much better than her.

Well, I need to run. I'll check on you again. I hope he shows up tonight and that you have a good dinner.

Take care- Hugs - SueS