Ooh, ya, I missed that. Being an alcoholic would explain a lOT, especially her wild swings (sober versus drunken conversations).
RTL, have you ever considered going to AlAnon? They can be very helpful to those dealing with alcoholic spouses.
Also - is there any way to document her drinking habits? While a couple of glasses of wine a night does not make an alcoholic, I'm willing to bet, based on her behavior, that she's drinking (or drugging) far more than you know.
