Thanks for jumping in! I really appreciate a new perspective and I love to hear success stories.
I've also moved away from being b*tchy when I'm upset- I think I'm addressing things in a more reasonable manner these days. The past year has finally forced me to grow up!
As far as the finances go, I'm looking at it from the DB philosophy of "asking for what you want." I want us to be able to set a budget and be open with where our money is going. I also want him to not be afraid to tell me what's going on with him.
Hi ST,
I've been thinking about what I can control since last night and then I read your post this morning:
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what can YOU do and control to get you to where you want to be.
You are right. Ultimately, I can only control what I do and my reaction to what he does. I need to try not to tighten the reigns on him or he's going to back off.
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perhaps asking him if he would help you make a budget?
I like this idea (are you and momof2girls working together? I think I'm going to back off on mentioning the finance discussion for a week or so and see if he brings it up. If not, I'll bring it up again by asking if he could sit down with me and try to develop a household budget. Tell him that it would make me feel more secure financially. How does that sound?
I think I'm going to back off on mentioning the finance discussion for a week or so and see if he brings it up. If not, I'll bring it up again by asking if he could sit down with me and try to develop a household budget. Tell him that it would make me feel more secure financially. How does that sound?
