A Very Rough Year - Breast Cancer & MLC

[TwinDad]

It is pretty funny how your lives become intertwined. The funny part is that "her" friends are all telling me things I should do to get her back. I guess they think I am pretty good for her

I probably should have some more of my own friends here, but when I first moved down here, I worked with people that were much older than me and even then we had no common hobbies. The we met and her brother became my best friend in the area.

And it's confusing, because the few times that I have ventured out to do something at a different location with business associates, he becomes questioning and snide. That would be the control, he wants to know that I am at home....waiting.

I know what you mean, my first attempt at GAL was being invited to our ex-SIL (her brothers xW) and her husbands for dinner. I told her about it and she got all angry. I didn't even talk about our R with them either. It is a control thing. They want to figure themselves out with the comfort of knowing they have a safety blanket to fall back on. I think deep down they are very scared and confused of everything (of their life being this way, of their life being different, etc)

I know it is bad for us, but I imagine it must be rough for them being completely out of balance on the inside even though they are the ones in "control"