Trusting this sounds like a step in the right direction. Try to make every encounter with h comfortable and upbeat. When he arrives, very upbeat "hi h, how are you".

Hope it goes well. Well, you can't die from rejection. We all know that now.

If your h is truly depressed as in he needs professional help he will need all the support he can get and it will be a long slow process.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"