Just dropping by to see how things are going a coupla miles south of me.
I don't know if my experience is helpful, but I'm finding that I need my space in a big way. My W kept sleeve-tugging, but was firm about D so the only way I could conceive of taking care of myself was to go dark. Told her today. That said, if she contacts me I'll be friendly and the generous man that I am.
I don't know if I'd ask XW why she left. Every sitch is different, right? I think you have the answers inside your head - are the problems yours or your Ws? Deal with your own, not your Ws.
BTW, isn't it funny how people suddenly reappear when you separate? I've had a lot of people contact me that I hadn't talked to in years.
