My wife feels very similar. That its a mere matter of time before I become ugly. When she leaves, I will become very ugly. That everything she is seeing now, is mere illusion to keep her in my web of madness
What that is..is that nasty preconcieved notion of who that other person is. Its a lie we have told ourselves so many times we believe it.
Now there is some merit to how your spouse ultimately becomes an evil charactacure of themselves in our minds. When they do ugly things, you start to expect it from them. The more they do it, the more you expect it.
Until you get to a point that is what you expect from them 100% of the time, and when you dont get that from them, you are suspicious.
I am having one hell of a time getting over this hump. She still frequently assumes I am going to be an [censored]
Me: 37 Wife: 40 Son: 7yo Son: 18 mo Bomb: 12/31/07 Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now
