My philosophy, and many will disagree is that you are in a competition with the Ow. There is a fine line there though. I think the more important thing is to figure out your responsiblility in the downfall of your marriage and change yourself for YOU, not for your H. That being said, read the 80/20 thread. Figure out where you went wrong in your marriage and try to fix it.
IF your H never comes back, you will be ready for a new relationship. If he does, you will be ready to fulfill those needs that you were missing earlier that OW somehow managed to hit.
Yeah, he probably notices you. Yeah he was probably giving you a compliment, but don't take it to mean too much. remain detached and still treat him as if he was an aquaintance that gave you a compliment.
BFM
Last edited by butterflymom; 06/05/0801:46 AM.
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
