Why is MC out the door? Has she said it is or did you decide? Are you done or not done? If you are still hopeful, ask her again about MC. Call around to counselors and speak to them about their stance on MC. Are they pro-marriage?
That was how I found mine. All my H said was he did not want a Christian based counselor. Other than that, I was free to choose. I picked one that catered to military and was pro-marriage, too. H is taking it on the chin but keeps coming back to the counselor.
Our MC suggested reading After the Affair. IF you have not read it, and since the OM is a new occurence I am sure you have not, please pick it up. If you think she would be receptive, suggest it to W, too. It is balanced and covers both the perspectives--the hurt spouse and the unfaithful spouse.
Keep your chin up and try not to beat yourself up over this. The OM is your wife's problem, not yours, believe it or not. That is what I have had the hardest time coming to acceptance on. But, by doing so it has made it so much easier to deal with my husband.
SMW
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
