Ya know, I am not sure. I mean, I have mentioned how I see positive changes in her. Not sure if it resonated in her or not.

Honestly, since no one is perfect to begin with, the changes she has made have made her far more appealing to me than she already was. She used to be very anxiety ridden - which I was ill equipped to properly handle. That appears to be gone. I mean, just gone. Its astounding. She did therapy, meds...but this did it au natural. Good stuff!

But in the same light, this newfound improvment in herself in her eyes has helped validate that the path she is on (out the door) is the right one for her to take. That she needs to do this for herself, to continue her growth.

I think its possible to grow as a couple. I mean, we have. I am in such a better place now than I ever was before. So is she.

So its kinda ironic to me to think that by ending this marriage is the thing that needs to happen to enable her further growth


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now