Okay, so here's my current dilemma (as opposed to the on-going ones. lol): the $300 month he allots to me isn't even close to enough to pay for groceries, gas, diapers and all the bills plus extras like shoes or clothes for the kids or dance lessons, etc. He pays the car insurance and supposedly the van payment, I pay everything else. There are no credit card bills except for the Military Star card and they just take that out of his paycheck. We live in Post housing so all of that is taken care of. But still, $300 isn't enough at all.
So, in order for me to get food stamps or any type of government assistance (besides WIC), I have to have papers that prove we are separated. Otherwise, I have to take his LES in and they will say that we make too much money. I'm feeling like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
1. I can't get financial aid to help take care of my family without filing papers.
2. I don't want to file papers because that feels like fueling the flame that's burning any hope of reconciliation.
3. I can't afford to take care of my family without govt assistance
4. I can't get a job because I can't find anything that pays enough to come out ahead since I'll have 3 children in childcare.
I don't know what to do. He has never said that he has changed his mind or is even considering it. He left in November and has been adamant (in words) that he wants a divorce and that "we aren't good for each other & we don't work well together, etc." Am I being naive?
