Let me give you my perspective based on my events. I left H on Mother's Day, 5/11 after another nasty conflict. Our anniversary was 5/15. As hurt and upset as I am, I would have loved some sort of communication on my anniversary, but I got none. So, in my mind, my H doesn't want anything to do with me. My own nature, which I didn't apply because, to be honest, I am waiting for him to make the move and prove to me he wants to work on this marriage, btw, would have been to at least send a card. Simple, nothing mushy, but an acknowledgment. A thought process of "I still care." I got none of that... and that hurts like hell. Something that I believe is my H's way of 'getting back at me' emotionally.
My feeling is, she's still talking to you right? You obviously are communicating, right? Then send her an unexpected card of thank you. Keep is SIMPLE and leave it at that. Nothing more, nothing less. It's an acknowledgment.
