Being terrified is anxiety showing it's being well fed. Being terrified is not breathing enough to get oxygen in your brain to allow you to think calmly. Being terrified is allowing the worst thoughts you can think of grow and grow and grow to the point they take on reality.
Your husband is a whack job. Everything he's done shows forethought in malice, manipulation and lying.
In his statement to the police he said he mailed the keys back to you. Ooops, then he sold the car.. with the keys. Just one tiny example of how he's tripping himself up.
The calmer you are, the better you will be for your daughter. The calmer you are, the better you will be for yourself.
Give yourself the gift of long deep breaths. Stop moving Stop moving Stop moving And just sit.
Maryangela, please do not talk to your H before the friday court date. I fear you might let on to him some of the stupid mistakes he is making right now.
Also, lets look ahead a bit to after friday when he finds out how much he has messed up legally. Dont be surprised if he suddenly tries to weasel his way back to your heart. This may not be the best time to show mercy.
I am very optimistic for your situation on Friday.
OMG Mary... your H is scary. I COMPLETELY agree with everyone - I am also optimistic about Friday. I think if anything HE is the one likely to lose his daughter over all this. How on earth can he sell your car without your signature??? I don't even get HOW he is doing some of this stuff.
I totally agree with Jeff:
"Your H is about to be taught a lesson in power. He doesn't have any. The judge has it all."
I also agree with Kerry - please please pleae do not talk to him. Clearly all the stuff about "working it out ourselves before the court date" was also BS. Let the lawyers handle it ALL at this point.
One quick question - did the judge do something about your D's custody during this week? Like order that the family can't take her anywhere, something like that? I don't want to add to your fear at all but with how completely nuts he is acting, I just want to make sure someone is checking up and making sure your daughter is where he says she is.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Until this child custody situation is worked out, do NOT speak to your husband by yourself. If he calls you and wants to talk, tell him to call your lawyer. You are paying him to represent you. Don't try to do anything regarding your husband on your own. Your lawyer should do all the negotiating. He knows what to say and what to do.
i GOT MY CAR BACK!! After the motions that lawyer drafted up today, my dad decided to try frank one more time. frank has always loved my dad, always. my dad, as I have mentioned before, owned 52 shoe stores and has dealt with "all things legal" once or twice. lol. so my dad gets him on the phone (about 5pm) and they talk, easy talk, then finally my dad gets to the point and frank said he was NOT going to give car back. I HAVE NEVER HEARD MY FATHER SPEAK TO ANYONE THE WAY HE SPOKE TO FRANK!!!! 3 hours later, we get a call to pick up the car.
Now read this carefully: I WILL NEVER TAKE THE A**HOLE AGAIN IF YOU PAID ME 9 MILLION DOLLARS!!!
