Mixed Signals - version ? who's counting

[catfan]

For me personally (emotionally, mentally, financially) a lot has changed which is a really good thing. I've been able to make wholesale changes in me, changes back to the real me and changes to the person I have always endeavored to be. (Side note, her father was the type of man I always wanted to be. It took a good long time for me to realize I was that man as long as I wasn't fighting it. I love being that man now!!!)

Yes she's grown more distant in that we don't talk nearly as often(read daily) nor do we do things like lunch etc. If you recall she for a long time "wants to see if we can be friends again." Hell I never realized we weren't friends and best friends at that.

I think now she's probably lightly MLC because she doesn't know what she wants and re-reading the MLC chapters in Michele's books seems to fit my wife to a tee. Recently she told me that we need to only talk about the issues and items regarding the kids. That lasts a few days and next thing I know she's all chatty with me about this or that.

We did have a strange interaction yesterday. I emailed her asking for an update on a few outstanding action items from our separation agreement that she's responsible for. Long story short a document she had her lawyer draw up for the 401k transfer was given to me to review. This document and the transfer can only be completed at the time a divorce is granted.(I didn't realize that.) So I asked if I should read into anything here since she gave me the document. Her answer back was it was prepared based on the fact that the transfer is an outstanding action item. But "I have not asked them to prepare a divorce filing at this time." Now the real odd thing was the night before she called to talk with the girls and wanted to talk to me. She chatted away just like we were two happily married people.

So, she's the one stalled. I've decided to continue to just live my life and not worry about what she does or doesn't do. Basically I've taken the "plan for the worst, hope for the best" attitude. I'm in no big hurry and am just enjoying my life.