I really enjoy all of your posts, and I hope you don't mind if I bring up something you wrote in another post - to make a point of my own, not that anyone cares...but hopefully it can provide a good debate if nothing else.
In another post you said: "Pornography is, for a man, what reading a Romance Novel is, for a woman: the indulgence of a sexual fantasy for the purposes of sexual arousal. The different pathways taken by men and women to reach that state are indicative of our gender differences with regard to intimacy and sexual arousal."
Bag - I just want to make the point that pornography is an addictive substance, whereas romance novels are not.
This makes this whole argument into comparing apples and oranges. I have heard so many men make the same comparison, but what they are really saying is "don't give me crap about my porn, it isn't that big of a deal, and I feel entitled to watch it".
I am not saying this about you specifically, just the argument in general.
If a woman is a sex addict, then maybe she could create in herself an addiction to romance novels. But the novels themselves are never going to be considered an addictive substance to the masses, whereas porn is DEFINITELY an addictive substance.
Therefore, in my opinion, expecting a woman not to have a problem with her man viewing porn is the same as expecting a man not to have a problem with his woman snorting coke "once in a while".
I know that seems harsh and way over the top, but anyone who has ever had a porn addiction will know that what I am saying is true. For a person with addiction problems, the substance can be interchangable.
Some men can view porn periodically throughout their lives and never become addicted. But some people can periodically snort coke and never become addicted. Does that mean it should be ok?
Before the internet, none of this type of comparison was ever made, because it was irrelevant. Men (and women) went for 100,000 years without access to heavy porn and did just fine...and now suddenly, every man seems to feel entitled to use this addictive substance and find reasons that justify it to the rest of the world.
Again Bagheera - I don't mean you personally. I just mean this very strange argument that compares two completely different things, one addictive substance and one article of pulp and print.
If you want to respond that would be great, if you want to avoid the topic that is fine too. I am not meaning to "call you out". Just wanted to voice myself.
