In my WAW's case, she had shed a million tears leading up to her decision to leave.

That kind of decision is very tough to make. Once you make it (for pro or con), a huge weight is lifted and the person is relieved.

From our LBS perspective: well, I dont need to tell ya - you are living it right now.

It seems there is lack of balance in one another's emotional state because there is. WAW has already grieved and its behind her.

Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now