(raises hand)...I called OW also...it wasn't that bad...of course my H wasn't living with her but was still planning on marrying her...she answered some questions...lied about having a PA with H...after I confirmed the PA I called her again and she was very ugly then...but oh well...in the end H told me that talking to me sort of made her feel guilty...
I am just giving my experience...I would say in most cases it is more bad then good to call...and not calling is always good...
As for what is done now...let H cool off...tell him you had a lapse of judgement and you are not contacting his OW...and leave it at that...or if you want email this to him and tell him you really don't want this to be a discussion between the two of you so you aren't going to call him back...settled, done!
