I am the WAW...

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Hello AnonymousJane73


I feel I can relate to your situation because (unfortunately) I behaved very similar as your husband did in creating my WAW.

1st - Its never too late, not in my opinion that is

2nd - does your husband actually realize his role in turning you away? It sounds like he is where I once was; I would blame her and insist it was her who needed the counseling, I was snippy, critical, condesending, complaining, loud, tempermental etc.

But I finally did 'see the light'. Once I genuinely understood what I did and how it affected her it was one of the most painful revelations in my life.

Dont get me wrong - she brought these issues to my attention countless times in the past, and I just didnt get it. I am a very stubborn person. I would simply react with telling her what I felt she wanted to hear, which frequently bought me some time that I failed to capitalize on. When my behavior wouldnt change, she would get THAT much more discouraged and feel more and more hopeless until it seems the only logical and sane solution for her is to leave.

But once I did get it, my stubborness was reborn into determination to save my marriage and make it stronger and more fufiling and rewarding than it ever has been in the past.

So...it IS possible that a man can finally identify & accept his weaknesses and take the steps towards realizing his own personal potential. That very potential you saw in him when you 1st fell for him. Its inside him, he just needs to figure it out. Have the blinders pulled off so to speak. Its not impossible!



PS - Bravo to you for coming to this site and participating! I really wish my girl would. But I am very pleased other WAW will come here because it really helps me understand your (WAW) perspective better and better. It gives me hope to see women in your shoes participating here