Next time you are in a book store, you might want to check out some of the co-parenting books - specifically the ones that address co-parenting with a jerk. Once you get the consistent parenting plan established in a couple of weeks, you are still faced with a vindictive ex-spouse who wants to try to control your time with your D.
I think ignoring a jerk is the best thing. Let her fume in her own selfish anger.
