Nothing I can do, but think of you. Nothing I can do but look in on you My eyes tear up at the though of what your going through becasue we all know the pain you feel We all wish the pain would end but it never does They say give it time and the pain will subside We hope they are right because our loves are gone but not the pain The pain is still here, when will it end They take what they want but leave us hurting someday I pray, what pain we felt becasue of love will be gone. I hope someday this will all end and we can move on with our lives again. Wouldn't that be grand, no more pain, but joy and happiness again, because we love again
This sh-t just comes out of my head, I'm sorry
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
(((Sara))) just wanted to see how things are with you today. I've been thinking about you and praying for you. Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I am so confused. I talked to H last night for 45 mintues on the phone. He says he doesn't want to divorce, he loves me and wants to work things out. He doesn't want me to go to the lawyer and he is going to end it with the OW regardless. He has TM 2-3 times with messages about how he doesn't want to divorce, he wants to work on our marriage. Yet I haven't seen him at all.
I keep thinking that I don't want divorce and he doesn't want divorce then why the heck am I doing this?
There has to be another choice. There just HAS to be....
I have put off the lawyer until this afternoon. Physically doing this is so impossible for me.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
((((Sara)))) I'm so sorry that is has to be this way, confusion at every turn. Again, all I can say is do what you have to do for you and we'll be here to support you no matter what.
Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
What would happen if you rescheduled with the L and told H that if he really wanted this to work he needs to come over and talk. If he shows up establish group rules for R and that meens NC with OW. His life HAS to be an open book in order to gain back the trust that was lost. If he is not willing to do this, walk straight to the L becasue he is cake eating!!!!
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
If you can put off L without it costing you something, I say call L and tell him/her D is on hold.
You need to work it out in your mind - no rush. You have to be 100% sure, I sorry your H is going back and forth on you. I believe you posted some rules for reconciliation. If you didn't Puppy and others here can help you
(((SARA)))
We are all here for you
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Oh I totally agree brokenhearted...I just wish I had some middle ground between divorced and not divorced. If we could be legally seperated, that would really help me out emotionally. I think H would come over if he physically could. But his work schedule and school schedule is back to back and he isn't finished with either until 10:30pm each night. This isn't an excuse, but just how things are for him right now.
I don't have an appointment with the lawyer. I am just supposed to come into the office and pay her to get started with the paper work whenever I can this week.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Sara your H needs to make this a priority and SHOW you something. When is he not busy? There has to be some effort on his part. Let him SHOW you that he doesn't want this. Saying it is one thing, lets see some action. If there is no action...i.e. ending it with OW now, making an effort to do something right by you.
Actions not words, I forget that all the time.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
BINGO. Go back and read the "dealbreakers" you came up with for me, Sara. See if your husband is willing to DO them. If he is, put the legal action on "HOLD" (not "off) for 30 days, but tell him that your terms are non-negotiable.
Actually filing might help keep the focus on him making a decision. You can stop it(or put it on hold) with a phone call. It would show that you are serious and keep him focused.
