So much so that I might as well have undressed both her and the OM and bought them the hotel room and plane tickets for their vacation and wished them well.
Sorry Pirate, I think this is crazy talk. I think that damage was done to her yes. I think that knowing and realizing that you had a part on that is totally right on. I don't think that sleeping with someone else and going on vacations, and her lying to you and all that was only YOUR fault. I think that her having an affair was the cowards way out. I get it. I understand it, I just know that not everyone that is unhappy goes and has a physical affair.
Take blame where it is warranted, don't go overboard with it tho.
I totally AGREE 100 percent with this statement.
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Rather than totally put the blame on our spouses, rather than ask, what would happen if they came and blah blah blah, maybe, the REAL question goes something like this.
Why didn't I give 100%?
You are blessed in that you get to put what you have learned, with the spouse that walked away from you.
For the others that don't get that chance, we get to put what we have learned to use in future R's, and pretty much in our basic R's with anyone we encounter.
It is a work in progress. I also think that we have to know that it was not ONLY our faults. That pressure is way to much, and not realistic in my opinion.
I did not put Javier's penis in someone elses vagina, he did that all himself.
My actions caused a drift, My actions contributed to the demise. But MY actions did not put him in bed with someone else, he made that choice all by himself.
B/c Javier's actions also made my self esteen low, and his actions also had me wanting the urge to feel loved, But I did not have a physical affair.
Yes Mlc made them do it and blah blah
But I also think they need to take some ownership in what they have done
Last edited by Lissie; 06/04/0805:25 PM.
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