whitelight... when I finally stopped trying as hard as I was, I shortly thereafter met someone wonderful.
I found that my efforts to direct traffic so precisely was exactly what kept me having lousy dating experiences. On the other hand, the more I took care of myself without direct expectation of return, the better my experiences got.
Remember, there is a shortage of quality people out there (as you seem to have experienced). Very few have made the investment to improve themselves. I dare say that the representation of people who seek self-improvement through these message boards are only a small fraction of the number of people out there.... so by you participating in this effort of reading a book like DB and participating in these discussions, you are in the rare minority of peole working on themselves. (Wow that was a long sentance and hope it made some sense).
What I am trying to say is that quality people will shine and be noticed in time. Time is the painful part as it seems you have experienced.
Keep working on yourself. Keep being one of the rare quality people. You will just naturally attract rather than have to seek. That is what I have found works anyway.
