Wow TwinDad...that was great! It is good to hear from the other side how it feels and the thoughts that accompany it.

I think my H was also taught this way...especially as he is the Latin Lover (LL) and all that macho bullshit accompanies that as well.

I think it is great that you can see how hurtful that was although you can't really say anything in your present sitch...you've grown and learned!!!

I wish my H had been more expressive. I would love to be able to say that to him:"LL, I would like for you to be more expressive in your thoughts and feelings."

Truly that would be great!

Good luck in the dbing! Sounds like you are doing a great job!

Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

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