Also our talk last night started around 9 and didnt end until after midnight and nothing got accomplished.
If I recall correctly, you are prior military...nice civilian term, prior...heh, your a vet man. Even if you were a desk jockey you know that information is a key to any victory. Even if I got it wrong and you're not a vet, information is vital.
My take, is she is telling you not to get your hopes up. Much like many of us here, for different reasons. We told you because we expected this. She is telling you, well because it is like a script, if your wife is having an MLC there are certain things you can pretty much count on happening. In the 'nicer' MLCs you can expect them to play along with you, making the attempt to 'seemingly' repair the marriage so that when it doesn't work out, they have 'tried'.
The OM that you think is gone...don't let that bite you in the ass. The MLC are crafty and cunning SOBs, let me tell you. Prepare yourself at least mentally that you are wrong.
Birthday...buy presents for her from the kids, not really from you, nothing mushy or amazing, you cannot 'buy' her back...here is a 'trick' and it is a trick pure and simple. Buy her something nice too, but do NOT give it to her. IF she complians about you not getting her something, THEN pull it out. You can always say, I was trying to give you space, and didn't want any present to seem like pressure.
Vacation...yeah...that sounds like fun huh? You have some time to get the lay of the land on that particular mine-field.
A word of caution...do not use you children as a justification to be around her, got it? They are not tools, you don't ACTUALLY have to be there in a crappy situation that is only crappy because of the tension between you and your wife. You have time to work on this one.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
