Part of me wants to say, if you know the family is ok financially, then let him handle his stuff and deal with it. Sometimes I think we, as wives, need to let go of this control that we want to have - because of our concern for our family and future- that it does not allow our H's to learn and deal with it themselves.
Hey ST, Thanks so much for your input. I see that this is partially a control issue, but it is also about honesty and openness. I don't see finances as his stuff/my stuff/our stuff. It's all our stuff, if we're married and have a family, isn't it? I also feel like I need to know what's going on to be able to trust that he's not out gambling himself into a $90,000 hole again. How do I know that if I don't see where the $ is going? We have a good combined income- why don't our kids get to go on vacations? why do I have to worry about spending $ on necessities?
