My sense is that his asking for your involvement on the speech was a good thing, along the lines of inclusion. I agree with Ali that there is potentially some irony given the content, but not necessarily so if he is making steps forward towards you, as I think he is. Re: CEO, my take is definitely jealously and he is trying to reassure himself by taking a stab at the CEO's age. And I'm not surprised the CEO was taking a stab at your H. because he is also (a) jealous and interested in you and (b) is probably feeling protective of you. What a strange place for you to see those two knocking heads over you! Well, at least you're in demand!
Love that your H was checking out CEO. I'm curious as to how you responded? Did you say that CEO is distinguished (or some other term that makes older sound less negative)?
As for the speech. The fact that your H knows what qualities make a good marriage is a GOOD thing. I think when a person doesn't believe in marriage or feels negatively about the commitment/union they wouldn't be able to express such positive things as he said in the 2nd half of the speech. Your H is surely on his way home (although I wish he'd quicken the pace a bit ).
Hey guys! ((((All)))) for comig and visiting me! I really appreciate all your thoughts and insights!
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Purr- thank you so much for your thoughts- it really helps to get a man's perspective (to go with Jeff's). Excellent point about CEO being protective- that's probably what it was on his part, and I'm really glad you agree with the jealousy angle on H's part! It as funny seeing them interact- CEO was sitting in a chair and H was in the doorway. H spoke with 2 other people who were in the room with CEO and CEO said nothing- very unlike him. In the end, I said to H, 'This is CEO' and H said hello. After ages (!) CEO eventually said hello back and held out his hand to shake H's. And then it was over. I'd love to know who got the better of the handshake; possibly H as CEO apologised for having recently moisturised his hands.
Ali- your post made me choke on my tea- some of it nearly came out of my nose! That e-mail is SO FUNNY! I agree about the irony in me looking at the best man's speech. It'll be interesting to see if H shows me the wedding pictures after the weekend......
So, today I've been thinking about this jealousy thing a bit more. Do you guys think I should continue as normal, mentioning things about other interest? Or should I try and set H's mind at ease (subtley)?
Exchanged a couple of e-mails with H today but they were very short. He was inviting too much response (no question asking), so I didn't either. He's only in work for a half day tomorrow so I'm not sure when the next interaction will be (there was the possibility of a drink tonight, but he couldn't make it- working on the speech a bit more). Watch this space (or probably the next thread as I never make as many pages as anyone else
No other news here really- I'm going to make a pasta bake for dinner tonight- YAY!
Pasta bake sounds great! I had spinach and cheese ravioli with a garlic/olive oil/herb/wine sauce I made last night. Really good. My son ate most of it which was just as well since I would have eaten all of it myself!!
I'm not sure about the setting your H's mind at ease. Personally, I think he should be left wondering a little more about what you are doing. If he asks directly then give him an answer, by all means, but with minimal info. JMHO!
Have an absolutely FAB evening!
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Oooooh. Pasta bake! I'm getting hungry just thinking about it! Oh yeah, it's lunch time - I probably should eat!
I think you should let him wonder a little. If he asks or does more obvious hints, maybe a bit of reassurance that he's first in your list of guys or some such. I think his feelings are making him wonder WTF he's been doing! Which is a good thing of course.
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It was very funny. The first sentence is his email is about the CEO. and It was "thank god he is not as hot as I thought he was, phhhhhhhew!!!".
Yeap! jeallousy. Let him burn a bit. You didn't do anything to make him jeallous. And whatever you told him is half the truth anyway. He actually does have a reason to be jeallous so let him be. Don't make it worse but please, just for me, don't put his mind at ease either... you never know where a little push might get you. (DAM, SUPER DAM!!)
You should try and edit the speech a bit. Add a part in the end "I hope and wish you two newlyweds have the kind of love I share with my wodnerful wife Lisa". I know, too late now. Next time, promise?
Hey guys! Thanks for the good advice. I won't say anything to H to set his mind at ease, just carry on as I am/have been.
K- I like the potential edit to the speech. LOL! Can you imagine the rumpus that would cause with his relatives?!
Mishka, Jeff-man, Michelle.......disaster struck tonight and I didn't have the pasta bake! I went to a networking event thinking I'd stop in for a few minutes and ended up bumping into this guy who I've known for 14 years (we've only seen each other a few times during this whole period!), but we studied together, then worked in the same company too. It was really nice to catch up and I ended up staying out. So pasta bake tomorrow night. Yes, Jeff, with wholewheat pasta, and tuna for Omega-3. Good for the heart! Can't wait- I'm starving now!
((((hugs)))) guys!
Oh, I have another bit of news. I've been wearing my ring on my right hand mostly, apart from when I see H. I put it on the other hand immediately after H moved out and got into this routine of moving it over (no meaning, I think- it sort of just happened). Well, today it's moved back to the left hand permanently. Partly because my right finger is becoming fat and it's hard to get the rings off that one now and mainly because it should be in its' proper place. (Oh, and just to defend myself a bit more on the right hand thing, it's a cultural thing- my Mum and Dad both wore theirs on the right hand too- easy explanation for anyone who's nosey enough to ask).
I responded to H saying that CEO probably looked older this week as he's pretty stressed and busy at the moment raising our next round of funds. I'm not sure if that was a good response. I also said that I thought it was really funny that H thought that because CEO isn't too much older than me.
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