Stop trying to manipulate stbx or trying to have others do it for you. Stop trying to get him to see things your way. Neither of you is anywhere near an objective outlook on things. You want to think he is crazy.
for the longest time I was trying to hard to do the above, to get some solace from stbx, some consolation...nah. Our R (well, dead R) convos always degenerated and I was left feeling worse. OT would remind me that what I was doing was akin to a victim trying to get comfort from her abuser.
Since I've stopped bringing my feelings towards ow/a/betrayals we've been able to be cordial to one another. I will leave the judging to God, he was a true sack of crap with me, but all in due time, I will now be in good terms with him because of the kids and only because of them.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
